The past few weeks have been challenging to say the least. There have been so many changes in my world, I can’t keep up with them. Survival mode has kicked, which isn’t always a good place to be, however it is essential to our being.
Surviving basically means to remain alive or to exist. It’s usually a place of stress or busyness trying to connect all the dots in one day. I see many people in survival mode. Their faces and bodies reflect the internal bitterness they feel for merely existing. Their life is no longer about doing things that make them happy or what makes them feel good.
Instead they slip into zombie state. If you have ever seen a zombie movie, you will see that being a zombie is all about survival. They wander around, minimal interaction with others, not being able to feel or connect with others. They just exist looking for their next meal, living day to day. Watch the The Walking Dead. There are zombies or “Walkers” in that show. Ironically, the main characters are in a zombie state themselves…there main purpose is about survival. Being in that state of mind creates a whole host of issues because feelings and prosperity become secondary.
Ever feel like a zombie? Ever feel like you are a wandering from one place to the next in a monotone state? I feel this way when I become overwhelmed and over busy. Sometimes life happens and things pile up because everything seems to happen at one time. This time in my life, multiple changes happened all at once. None of the changes were bad. In fact, they were all blessings! However, in the midst of those blessings, I was pushed way out of my comfort zone. Being out of my comfort zone is scary as you know what!! So, while orbiting outside my old self, being stretched into new territory, my way to adjust to all of it was to kick into survival. Luckily, I don’t have to fight off “Walkers” and stay in that state of mind. I still have a choice.
Like I said, survival is necessary, however it’s not where you want to take up permanent residence. We are blessed in our country because we have choice. We can choose how we want our lives to be.
I noticed while I was in this survival state, I forgot, ignored, or got out of the habit of doing me. I forgot about my dreams, my wants, my needs, because there just wasn’t enough time in the day…right? Wrong! Existing for survival can backfire. Putting yourself on the back burner for a “greater cause” and not making “me time” for too long will eventually blow up into nasty, self destructive and self sabotaging habits. In truth, there is no greater cause than taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Coming down from all my changes. Accepting the blessings in my life, I still felt out of sorts and frustrated. “On edge” is another way to explain the feeling. After walking the line with my own self destructive behaviors and having ridiculous arguments with the love of my life, I realized I had forgotten something extremely important; survival mode is a temporary state and should no way become a permanent place of being. In this realization, I had to go through my self-care checklist (everyone should have one of these by the way) and evaluate what I needed to do to move from surviving to thriving. For me, writing and yoga are the two things that move me from survive to thrive. Those two things seem so simple, but in the midst of my survival chaos, it took a tremendous amount of effort and a certain amount of discipline to switch gears. I also have vivid memories of a time in my life where I was only surviving and not thriving and I can tell you, that is not a place I want to return to.
So today, I have recommitted my spirit back to my body and have officially switched gears. One yoga class and one blog does wonders for my soul. What are you going to do to thrive instead of survive today? Please share. Sharing is caring and your story or idea can be a life changing experience for you and somebody else.